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Mom & Daughter Time – Our Day at Glama Gal Spa

Glama Gal Spa Review 1Recently, my tween daughter and I were invited to a spa-themed day at the Glama Gal Spa near Yorkdale. I was immediately excited. What a great way to spend a day, getting pampered with my daughter! I love any activity where I can bond with her. I want this to be a natural thing for us – spending time together. As she grows older I want to set a precedent that we take time to together, where she can talk to me and we can stay connected.

I love the Glama Gal Spa. I love the inspirational messages they have all around the spa encouraging the girls to be themselves, to be confident, to be strong. The spa isn’t about getting beautiful, it’s about being a beautiful person and treating yourself with kindness as well as others. This message is important to me raising a daughter.

Glama Gal Spa Review 2

 

As a mother of a daughter, I feel like I am constantly walking a thin line. I am the model upon which she’ll most-likely base her future behaviour. As she gets older it’s hard to know what’s okay for her age and what I should wait on. I talk to my friends who also have girls, I read what I can, but I worry I’m going to mess up. And then, the spa-owner told me this story . . .

Another tween wanted a spa-party. She invited her friends. Unbeknownst to anyone but herself, this tween (I so want to call her Heather!) also sent an invitation to a girl who is not in her regular circle of friends. She deliberately put the wrong time on the invitation. The spa-owner told me that a little girl showed up ready for a spa party and the party had been over for at least an hour. She explained the situation to the little girl. The girl showed her the invitation she’d received, trying to hide her devastation at being so cruelly pranked.

The spa-owner called the party-girl’s mother. Let’s just stop here and think, shall we? As a sane, rational being with a pulse, what would your reaction have been???????

This girl’s mother simply did a telephone shrug and said, “Well, yeah, my daughter doesn’t like that girl very much,” and THEN asked the spa-owner to take the little girl’s birthday gift for her daughter and hold it until the next day when she could pick it up. Okay . . . go get a glass of water and walk it off. I’ll wait. (Go ahead, grab a glass of wine if you need it. I sure did.)

Just wow. The spa-owner, bless her, gave the little girl, who was standing in her spa listening to all of this, still devastated at being the butt of a really mean joke, the full treatment that afternoon. The girl left happier and with her birthday gift.

I cannot stop thinking about this story. The mean girl will learn nothing from a mother like that. What kind of person allows their child to do something like that without so much as a “Why?” much less a punishment. It bothers me that there are families like this. We all know that the mean girl in this situation is likely to turn into a mean woman without some kind of intervention.

The best I could manage was to use this story as a lesson for my daughter. We talked it through. I mentioned that should she ever try such a thing, there would be serious repercussions. Beyond that, I don’t know what else there is to do. I’m left feeling grateful that the spa-owner is the kind woman that she is. I’m angry at the mom far more than the girl who played the mean trick. And, I’m just at a loss . . . my only hope is that there can’t be THAT many women like that out there. Can there?

 

This is a sponsored blog post for Glama Gal Spa. All views are my own. I love to support great businesses!

Signing Stories: Grandfather learns signs to communicate with granddaughter!

We love hearing Signing Stories, and recently had one of our instructors, Melody from Calgary, share this with us. Heartwarming!

I have a little story to share that is just so amazing!! A few years back
when I started teaching for MSH, I had a man contact me who was interested
in learning ASL. He had a granddaughter (in Toronto!!) who was having some
developmental delays. His son and daughter-in-law had begun signing with
her and when he went to visit, he wanted to be prepared to communicate
with his new granddaughter. Amazing, right? He wasn’t even living in the
same city!! What a great Granddad! Well I often wondered what happened
after he finished both my Level 1 and Level 2 classes…I just got an
email and with his permission I would like to share:

Hi Melody,

I moved to Toronto last December near my son’s house.  I hope your signing
classes are still running and going well.  My older granddaughter is five
now but still has very little fine motor control so a lot of her signs
look much the same. But her parents and the teachers at her school are
using picture cards a lot now – she has good understanding and will
usually point clearly at one card if there are not more than three
choices, sometimes four.

This is supplemented with yes-no questions which she answers by pointing
to “yes” and “no” cards since she can’t sign yes or no or even nod or
shake her head clearly. This gets like the old parlour game of “Twenty
Questions” but her Mom especially is getting good at zeroing in on what’s
wrong or what she wants to do. But she does still use signing and has
correctly notified her Mom the last three times she had a bladder
infection, by signing “hurt” and pointing.  We keep signing to her to help
her with understanding her classmates – deaf or non-verbal – who are
signing to her.

My younger granddaughter is a “typical” child and has taken to signing
like a duck to water – starting when she was six months old. She’s 15
months old now and we find ourselves having little conversations with her
– e.g. playing with Granddad in the backyard; Mom comes out on the deck:
She signs “eat”.  Granddad: no, it’s not time for lunch yet. She signs
“banana” Mom: no, you had a banana for breakfast.  Etc.

Both the girls also sign to each other and seem to interpret better than
the adults.  One will make a sign then they will both hoot and laugh but
the adult didn’t get the joke. Also both at one time or another have
alerted her parents that her sister has a problem they hadn’t noticed.

Thanks for my great start to baby-signing and I can verify with my
grand-kids it is bringing all the advantages My Smart Hands claims for it
and it’s made my older granddaughter’s hard wee life a whole lot easier
for her and us.

WOW!! I literally had tears while reading this!

Thank you so much for sharing Melody! What an amazing story, and Grandfather!

True Bliss

I was recently asked to speak at BlissDom Canada, a conference for women bloggers, on viral marketing. I was honored to be on an amazing panel with Eric Alper, Jeff Pulver and Alison Kramer.

Eric, Jeff, Laura and Alison

I was wondering what I was going to tell the audience about viral marketing. I was lucky that my video went viral and my channel became so popular but I didn’t have a magical recipe to share on how I made that happen. Then it hit me… why did I make my videos in the first place? I made them to share a passion of mine with other parents. I didn’t care how many views my videos had, I cared about getting my message out there. What was important to me was touching lives. If I could touch just one life by sharing my videos and my passion then that was better than going viral. Making a difference is what is important to me. During the panel I shared a lovely story about a woman who sent me the most amazing email. I keep this email close to my heart. If nothing else happens in my business that would be okay with me because I made a difference in this family’s life. I want to share that email here today:

 

Hi Laura and Fireese!
I wanted to let you know how much you’ve helped me with my son, Asher. Asher is almost 4 years old now. He is a high-functioning autistic child. Asher was also born tongue-tied, and has a hard time forming our everyday sounds. At age 2 1/2, he had not slept for six months more than 2-3 hours at a time. Neither was I, of course! You can imagine how that sleep deprivation, coupled with a child who couldn’t speak intelligibly anyway, had my husband and I at our wit’s end. One day in September 2007, I was browsing the Internet, when I came across the video of Fireese at 12 months old, doing all these signs! I called Asher over and together we watched the video several times. He LOVED it! Within 45 minutes, my son was able to start communicating with me like never before! I could understand him when he needed a drink, or a diaper change, or his favorite toy (a pink monkey!), or to be left alone.

I realize that you may not realize this, or believe you’re just using your own talents, but you and your beautiful daughter are angels to me! Asher ended up getting a speech therapist who provided us tons of flash cards with signs on them to learn. He will be 4 years old in June, and I’m now looking to find ASL classes to keep up with him!
I don’t know where we’d be today if we hadn’t found your video online – I really don’t.

Thank you so much for taking the time to put it up and share it. I will always appreciate it!
Wendi
Proud Mom of Six

 

When I received this email I cried. To think that I was able to make sure a huge difference in someone’s life was absolutely amazing. I made a difference and that’s what matters in life!

While I was telling this story to the BlissDom Canada audience I became a little teary, other’s in the audience were also touched. Then a woman stood up, took the microphone and shared her story. She told us about her son and how I also made a difference in her family’s life. I don’t think there was a dry eye in the audience. Again, I had no idea! And here this woman was, brave enough to stand up in a room full of strangers and share her story. It was lovely, it was heartfelt! Here is her story as well:

 

I had the pleasure of meeting Laura at Blissdom Canada this year.  I was there listening to her speak on a panel and as she spoke I felt the need to stand up and tell the story of my son Liam. This subject is an extremely emotional one for me, and probably always will be.

Laura and Jennifer

I think that Laura’s My Smart Hands program is such a wonderful thing for parents. Listening to her speak about a little boy who was non verbal being able to learn to sign and communicate with his mother just tore me up. I know the heartbreak that mother felt not being able to know her sons wants or needs verbally.

Thank you Laura for your videos  and your hug after I was done shaking!

Jennifer Hunt
http://www.mybigbluworld.blogspot.com

 

I was so happy to be able to share my story with others. I think sometimes people see what I do and think how great it is that I teach baby signing classes. But I don’t think people fully realize how I am able to touch lives and make a difference. My heart overflowed during the BlissDom panel. There was such love in the room and tenderness from my co-panelists. I don’t think any of us expected the panel to go the way it did but we are all  richer for it. We all laughed, cried and bonded. It was a beautiful hour spend in a room full of open and lovely people!

Tender moment with love from my co-panelists, Jeff & Alison

 

 

I believe everyone has this ability. We can make a change and do good things in life. We have that power. If you go about your life to do good and make a difference then you will!

 

 

 

If you don’t know what Jeff does then visit his website http://140conf.com

If you haven’t seen Alison Kramer’s video then it is a must watch! http://www.reflectionsofmotherhood.com

Much love!
Laura (proud mom to Fireese and Hartford… and sharer of videos)